[Dead Parrot]

Having gone this far, backing off might send the wrong message and reaffirm that he can keep doing crap that harms others. It is less about the money then getting him to grow up.

Questions to ask yourself: Is he someone with a revenge streak? What does his wife think about the situation? Is she likely to support him if he decides to "Get you back." Could this put you or your kids at risk?

If you decide to pursue action, sounds like the definition of a small claims court case.

Is the damage something that can be buffed out and repainted? Is it something he could do? Maybe letting him fix the damage he caused would both send the needed message and avoid going down the bad path.