Probably lost a friend Saturday.

[In The Ten Ring]

One of my closest friends called me Saturday. I could tell something was off. He abruptly changed the subject telling me he was breaking it off with his girlfriend. Problem with that is they've lived together for 10 years and he'd raised her child that she had by another man.

Really big problem is he volunteered he'd been hitting them both.

I am very fond of the little girl, having taken her skiing, shooting, etc. and I had even volunteered to adopt her if something happened to them both. I was nearly beside myself with anger he'd hurt her.

He said things like "he's tired of them," "doesn't know why he hits them," "maybe if they move out he won't hit them again."

I sought advice from some people I trust, including a state prosecutor, who supplied the hotline to Child Protective Services. The next day, I made the report.

More and more I think he wanted me to call because he has to know I report anything illegal I see to police. Basically anyone or anything I cannot handle myself I report to police---he has to know that. I think it was a desperate call for help.

I held it together pretty well during the report but broke down at the last bit and cried. The tears continued after the call ended. I don't want to say "never" but I suspect my friendship with him has ended. There is simply no reason to hit your loved ones, certainly no reason to hit a 9 year old in the face.