Ok, the problem with back up/NSS was the aftermarket column my buddy bought didn't have the switches on the column. So after some scrambling I figured out the Lokar system and I used it for the NSS with the 2 pronged gizmo to push the switch in when the tranny is in Park or Neutral.
Then the problem was the back up lights, again no switch. I got an extra Lokar switch and built a bracket, and the two look something like this.
IMG_0445 by
Robert Moorman, on Flickr
The first prong on the Lokar system pushes the NSS in neutral. When you shift to reverse, that same prong pushes on the second switch. Then in neutral the second prong pushes on the NSS, but it misses the back up by just enough to not activate it when you put the tranny in low. I got out the multi meter and made sure. I have continuity for the Lokar system and for my bracket, so everything works!
Now to start looking for back up lights for the future!